Coaches are specially trained mental health professionals who help manage the collaborative process. They understand the emotional issues of dissolution so they can aid both parties in reducing the stress and upset of divorce.

Your Collaborative Attorney will help you understand legal and financial issues. But what about diffusing anger, setting goals for your life after divorce, and learning how to clearly state your needs during emotion-filled negotiations?

Coaching is not therapy, but it can be therapeutic. The primary goal of your coach is helping you be your best while you plan your new life apart from your partner. It took a long time to become a couple — the process of “de-coupling” can be difficult to manage alone.

Your coach will help you cope with strong emotions during your separation, lower your stress level, and learn effective communication skills that will set the groundwork for a healthy post-divorce relationship with your ex-spouse.

How does it work?

Some teams use a one-coach model, where one trained coach works impartially with both parties. Other teams choose a two-coach model, where each party hires their own coach. You should discuss with your attorney which model is right for you.

Every professional works a bit differently, but generally, coach and clients meet for an initial consultation and up to three coaching sessions to discuss emotional readiness for divorce, styles of coping with conflict, and specific life goals. Coaches may also participate in meetings with both parties and their attorneys.

Coaches is a vital member of your Collaborative Team. They remain in constant contact with your attorney and other professionals to pass along information to help you create an equitable and lasting divorce agreement.

Read more about how Collaborative Divorce works.

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